Trying for a particular gender or sex can be a very taboo topic. Understandably so. Without question pregnancy is a miracle, and every child is an incredible gift. There are woman who sadly can not even conceive one child, let alone try for a particular gender. I can only imagine that this would be so unbelievably painful. Like many things in the life people can take things like food, shelter, opportunity, love, freedom and education for granted, as some will never get to experience those things. The list could go on forever, and all we can do is life our lives in the moment, grateful and relative to the reality we face each day.
I believe you can be grateful for the children you have, and any children that are still to come, and still sway the odds in favor of a particular gender.
Wanting and trying for a Girl did not mean at any point that I would not love another son.
Some of the critical questions I think every swayer needs to ask themself, and be able to honestly answer is 'do I want another child, boy or girl, do I really want to add to my family'. If the answer is yes, 'boy or girl, I want another child' then swaying is somewhat harmless. If the answer is no, 'I only want another child if it is a particular gender or sex' then you are possibly in a danger zone.
Another critical question to ask yourself is 'if the baby you conceive is not the gender you are trying for how will you cope?' If the answer is along the lines of, 'life will go on, I will be sad and disapointed for a while, maybe some tears, may still long for a little girl but I know I will love and adore the family I have…' then you know you are probably okay to give it all a shot. If the answer is 'end of the world, may never recover, maybe reconsider the plan.
I am by no means suggesting that you can not try for a baby if you are feeling end of the world feelings. However I would strongly suggest getting some counselling first. I would also look into some options such as IVF that can guarantee a particular sex, if it is legal where you are of course. Personally I live in Australia, so that was not an option.
Trying for a girl through gender swaying was an incredible experience for my husband and I. We are to be very honest with ourselves and work together. It was not particularly romantic, having sex on schedule! At times I became stressed, this was when I remided myself to be grateful and I would repeat soothing mantras, as kooky as that sounds!
If you are experiencing gender depression, either through a pregnancy or while raising your children I would again recommend counselling. Sometime you may need to shop around to find the right person.
Other tips I have (some may seem a little shallow, but they can help!) are:
1. Go on a little shopping spree and spoil your self.
2. Take a family holiday if life permits!
3. Go on a weekend get away with you girlfriends.
4. Volunteer at a local kindy, nursery ect to spend time with some little girls.
5. Take a neice or goddaughter out for a day.
6. Spend a day with you children outrageously spoiling them and yourself. I personally love this one. We would go out for breakfast, go shopping, then go to friends houses, then snuggle up on the couch with movies and marshmallows! Best day ever!!
